Okay, here is a little more from Dr. Dongell’s message (the link is below). He gives a list of 10 indicators that one may have a monster living within. Here is my paraphrase of the list …
- A minor word of correction absolutely floors us.
- We constantly require delicate tip-toeing treatment from others and need exceptions from the rules all others are expected to follow.
- We have trouble imagining that ideas we ourselves have not generated are actually pretty good.
- We guage our worth by comparing ourselves to others and find that we are secretly relieved when others fail and sick when they succeed.
- We assume our motives are absolutely pure but ferociously dissect the motives of others with cynicism.
- We are obsessed with fairness and driven to right every wrong committed against us.
- We are satisfied when our love for others is recognized but hurt when our “sacrifices” are not publicly recognized.
- We demand forgiveness from others for our faults but grant forgiveness in tiny slivers with tips of poison.
- We advocate tirelessly for justice, right theology, faithful exegesis, etc. but leave a trail of broken relationships in our wake.
- When hearing a list like this we automatically think of all the people who need to hear this list without considering I might be that man or woman.
This list is intended for persons in ministry but I think it applies to all of us. I know I was convicetd by some of these (especially #5). So, is there a monster in your closet?