Okay, almost everyone knows about the 5 stages of grieving – denial (or shock), anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. What you may not know is that no one cycles through these things in the same way or in a linear fashion. As one grieves he or she weaves in and out of these stages, which allow the grieving person to deal with the new reality they find himself or herself in.
Another thing you may not know is that grieving makes you go crazy. I can’t call any of my children by their right name. If I’m trying to Zaccai’s attention I say, “Timothy, Wesley, Zaccai!” Crazy. This morning I pulled the clothes out of the dryer, put the clothes in the washer into the dryer, and then put the clothes from the dryer back into the washing machine! Now I have to redo all of yesterday’s dirty laundry. Crazy.